Outside In – Inside Out

Have you ever gone to buy a house? Hunt for an apartment you were planning to live in for a really long time?
It’s a big deal. You spend hours and hours trying to figure out what you want.
You make a list of everything that is important to you. Three bedrooms, one story, a big kitchen, a garage for two cars, fenced in yard, comfortable neighbourhood, close to a specific school… whatever is important to you.

And then you go look with an agent that shows you what seems like a million and one places.
Some are too close to the neighbours house. Others have bad floors throughout. And some don’t give you the warm fuzzies even though they have all the attributes you want.
But then……
You just walked in the front door….
You haven’t even seen all of it yet….
You found it.
It is THE ONE!

Except, it’s a two story house with a weird lay-out. And the tile in all the bathrooms is horrible. And the back yard comes up against a stream that has been known to overflow from time to time and it’s not in the right school district.
But…. you can feel it.
Like it was made for you.
It is. The one.

You know that feeling, it’s unmistakable. It’s when your inner voice calls something “home”. It’s hearing the perfect song just when you needed to hear it. It’s knowing you want to spend the rest of your life with someone even before you met them. It’s knowing “your” car before you even know the price. It’s pulling up to beach at just the right moment to see the green flash in that perfect sunset. It was made for you.
Made for you.


Most thing we evaluate in life – our hobbies, which company to work for, the right shoes for that dress – is usually done from the outside in. Strategic for the most part. Involving a concrete set of likes and dislikes, for most of which, compromise is NOT an option. Approaching from the outside, towards the center of a spiral. From the outside in.

But if you can hear even a little bit of yourself or you’re at least open to listen….. every now and then, something comes along that starts from the inside out.
Smack dab right in the middle of the center and details you thought were important just fade into the background.
It is.just.right.

And perhaps, this unintentional and unintended backwards approach scares the shit out of you.
Maybe it involves having to change something you weren’t anticipating.
Or perhaps you’re terrified of that right thing BECAUSE you can’t quantity it, because it makes no sense.
And how could anything that can’t be explained possibly work out for the best?
And what if you try and then fail? Or turn out to be wrong at some point in the future and that right thing no longer meets your needs?

Yup. You’re right. That could happen.

And there is but one way to find out.

Tile can be changed, can’t it?

Author: akafrancie

Originally Swiss, recovering Caribbean island inhabitant. Amateur zoo keeper. Probably under-caffeinated, always hungry and curious. Interested in technology, collaboration and connecting people. Resourcefulness is my super power.

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